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The Do & Don’t Guide to Love & Dating with ADHD

Relationships are an essential part of human life, and can bring us both immense joy and difficult challenges. Millennials with ADHD may have a harder time navigating the dating world, but that doesn't mean they can't find love!

Dating someone with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is not entirely different from dating anybody else - it just requires extra understanding and effort.

Whether you have been diagnosed with ADHD or are looking to learn more about navigating the dating world alongside someone who is, this guide will help you better understand the do’s and don’ts of love and dating with ADHD.


Do Communicate Openly

When it comes to love and dating, the key to success with ADHD is clear communication. In the beginning of any relationship, set expectations for each other by talking about your hopes and dreams for the relationship, as well your wants and needs.

It is important to be open and honest about yourself, your feelings, and your experiences.

Communicating openly can help build trust between you and your partner. Discuss what is needed in order for each of you to feel loved and supported. Asking questions upfront can do wonders for building understanding between a couple.

Additionally, talking openly about how ADHD affects different aspects of your life can help both parties better understand the dynamics of a relationship while living with ADHD.

By being authentic and honest you can help avoid miscommunications that may arise down the line due to inattention or carelessness. With some effort and a little know-how, you'll be on your way to building a successful relationship based on trust and understanding.

More over, being open means welcoming feedback from your partner – being willing to accept when things just don’t work out so that you can both build better relationships in the future. Honesty and open dialogue will not only lead to a good relationship but will also help us create strong foundations of trust so we can learn to communicate effectively and openly.

Don't Put Too Much Pressure on Yourself

When it comes to love and dating with ADHD, don't put too much pressure on yourself. It’s natural to want things to go perfectly, but that doesn’t mean that perfection needs to be constantly strived for.

Instead, focus on being your own authentic, unique, and beautifully flawed self. Don’t compare yourself to others or dwell on what you don’t have. Remember, this isn’t a race - there is no “Best in Show” for dating.

With that being said, don’t feel discouraged if your relationships don't always go as planned - it is not anyone's fault or your ADHD. Don't misuse your disorder as an excuse or crutch to get out of tough conversations or explaining yourself.

Mistakes happen during the dating process; don't let them get you down! Rather, direct your attention on learning from these experiences so that there is room for personal growth within the relationship.

Do Take Time for Yourself

Finding and maintaining a healthy, loving relationship when you have ADHD can be a real challenge. Having ADHD can present its own unique set of obstacles that require extra attention - like managing drastic shifts in emotions. This means one minute the brain could be happy and content while the next its angry or sad without much explanation as to why the change occurred so quickly.

The best way to deal with these emotional fluxes is by creating an environment where it is safe for both individuals in the relationship to express their feelings without fear of judgement or criticism from the other person.

This helps build trust between partners while also helping them understand how the other feels in any given situation - which leads towards healthier communication patterns overall .

Additionally, its important to reserve some time away from your boo to focus on self care and reflection.

Allow yourself time and space to manage stress levels by doing activities that make you feel relaxed or inspired. Even if all we can afford sometimes is just sitting down with tea and a book, or calling up an old friend, take that time to nourish the soul.

And don't worry if in spite of such efforts, things remain a bit chaotic. By taking the steps to nurture ourselves, we create positive conditions that allow us - and our relationship - to grow.

Don't Forget to Have Fun & Enjoy Yourself

The most important thing when it comes to love and dating with ADHD is not taking things too seriously!

Having fun should always be at the forefront of any date night! Learning ways of connecting with others can foster a healthy relationship while also providing an opportunity for new experiences together as a couple.

It can be tempting to overthink every relationship decision, but don't let that get in the way of experiencing joy and happiness with all relationship milestones along the way.

We understand that it can be difficult - helllerr! its why we created this guide - but part of learning how to manage your relationship while living with ADHD means taking time to enjoy each moment.

Be confident in who you are and don’t be afraid to express joy or show vulnerability when it's needed.

Don't forget to have fun, laugh often, and know that mistakes are part of the process. When relationships problems arise, take a breath and address them head-on rather than sweeping them away under the rug as this will become a much bigger issue down the road.

Don’t forget to enjoy yourself; you deserve it!


So there you have it, the do’s and don’ts of dating with ADHD. Living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder does not mean that meaningful relationships cannot be formed or enjoyed - quite the opposite actually!

With proper communication, understanding, and a dedication towards self-care being at the forefront of any relationship dynamic, dating with ADHD does not have to be daunting or intimidating anymore!

Remembering these do's and don’ts will ensure a successful foray into love and dating while living with ADHD so that each experience brings joy instead of anxiety.


If your relationship isn't quite where you want it to be or if you're struggling in other areas of life, reach out for professional help. Rising Perspective Counseling specializes in ADHD, anxiety, depression, and low self esteem. You were not meant to navigate the waves of relationships alone. That is why we offer free consultations where we can provide comprehensive guidance and support. Click the button below to learn more.

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